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Every once in awhile you stumble upon a gem and you just know: From this moment forward, nothing will ever be the same. Finding this article about teen slang last week was one of those moments.
Let me be perfectly clear: Parents who think they are cool are not cool. It’s embarrassing, really.
No, my husband and I know exactly how old and out of touch we are. We just happen to also think it’s hilarious to illustrate that to our teenage children now and then.
So upon finding this article, I messaged my husband, and we spent the day learning a foreign language.
Learn Teen Slang
As we sat down to dinner, I looked across the table at the boys and said,
So… Dad and I found a resource today to help us learn teen slang to improve our communication with you.
Nope. No. Absolutely not.
So what I’m hearing you say is that you think this is wack?
Make it stop.
My husband and I took different strategies throughout the meal.
He spoke normally, but ended every sentence with “bruh” or “fam”. (Although at one point he did wave his finger while he told my son to “swipe left”)
I chose to sneak in catchy phrases when the opportunity arose.
For example, my eldest suggested he might go on my computer and delete the bookmarked article I’d found.
No problem, I’ll just pop a Goog and find it again.
No one says that, mom. That’s not a thing.
Don’t get shook, I’m gucci.
You don’t even make sense.
You just don’t want to admit how lit I am.
My husband chimed in,
As we finished our meal, I relished the fact that both of my boys were at the table. I took mental video of them laughing and added their smiles to my mind’s album.
Whether you try your hand at teen slang or not…please laugh with your kids. Make memories with them in the small moments. Eat dinner together. Play games. (We’ve been playing a lot of Super Mario Party lately…I’m determined to win one of these times!). Talk in the car. Do things with your teen. Put your phone down, close your laptop, and be with your children!
As I said, I don’t particularly think it’s cool to try and be your kids’ best friend. You’re their parent for a reason. And parenting can be hard work. As parents of teens, it’s hard to know sometimes how to advise them and where to set boundaries.
But the fact that we have to be the heavy sometimes is all the more reason to create and savor moments to laugh with your kids.
Pro tip: Notice I said laugh with your kids, not laugh at them. When your children are young, they are an extension of yourself. You can post about them on social media because they are yours. Please don’t make the mistake I’ve seen too many parents make of not being respectful of their teens on social media.
My husband and I love to tease our boys that we are going to embarrass them. (Like when we told them we were working on a dance routine to show their friends.) But the fact is, we always get their permission before sharing any pictures of them on social media. And yes, I got their permission before posting this story, too.
When my youngest stood up with his plate to leave the dinner table I said,
You finna bounce?
He rolled his eyes as he walked into the kitchen. Then he turned around and said with a smile,
OK, that was actually pretty good.